💛 Jordan's Story

 I joined FHY in October 2020 after admiring from the sidelines for a while and putting it off thinking that I didn't need it or that the next cycle just has to work, so why join now? We were married in May 2016 and started trying to conceive almost immediately. Trying naturally wasn't working but I was always told I was “fine” and there was no reason to believe I couldn't get pregnant, which always led us to believe the next thing we tried just HAD to work. After 11 (yes 11) unsuccessful IUIs, 1 round of IVF with my first clinic, multiple canceled cycles, 3 unsuccessful transfers - 1 of which ended in a miscarriage (which I found out on my birthday, alone because of COVID), I was in a extremely isolated place, willing to keep going but unsure how, especially during the unprecedented times of the pandemic. I felt left behind by friends who started TTC after us with multiple kids and none that I knew of going through infertility. My husband was an amazing support but just couldn't understand all of what I was experiencing emotionally and physically.

This was when I finally decided to sign up for Erin's Roadmap to Miracles Masterclass, thinking I'll see what this is all about - hopefully I'll get something out of the class and maybe I'll win a prize :) During the class I immediately felt seen and validated. I even connected with some girls in the chat during the class and knew this was the place where I needed to be. I dove right into the group coaching calls and found my safe space to talk about what I was experiencing, laugh, cry and received the personal advice I had been desperately longing for. I made friends on those Friday morning calls that I still keep in touch with who have graduated and even have babies of their own now. I also was placed in a brand new affinity group and all of a sudden felt more connected than ever before. We formed a special bond sharing our experiences through what has become known as our “epic” zoom calls and our group chat, lifting each other up and asking the questions that you are too embarrassed to ask anyone else. These women have become more than friends, they are my sisters. They checked in on bad days, sent support before big appointments and even sweet cards in the mail. Even though we are all in different places on our journey we are always in this together.

Erin always tells us we WILL graduate but I wasn't sure if I would ever graduate saying I am pregnant. After joining FHY I had one more transfer at my first clinic then switched to a new clinic where I had many more tests, two more egg retrievals and 3 more transfers. Lucky transfer #7 was finally the one!

To summarize my biggest takeaways seems impossible, but here goes:

Timing - Especially when you are a Type A personality this is a difficult one. Nothing about this journey happens on your time. Choosing to accept that with grace makes things much easier. If you experience a setback what can you do instead of dwelling on it? I tried to take setbacks as opportunities to work on or treat myself to something I wouldn't have been able to do if I was in the thick of treatments. Have the wine, go on the vacation - you deserve it!

Intuition - I feel that FHY really helps you to learn how to tap into your intuition and listen to what your gut is telling you. There are many times when there is no right or wrong choices but one needs to be made regardless. The best way I found to make difficult decisions was to take time to really sit with what I was facing and think through it deeply. Which decision would I NOT feel settled with? At the end of the day you have to live with the choices, not the doctors or anyone else. Do what is right for you!

Rewrite the Story - If you don't like your story, change it. I always kind of hated that saying, but I find it to be so true. I felt helpless and stuck so many times but there is always a way forward, it just might not be the way you imagined it. We dove into exploring adoption and working with an RI before my last transfer. We also decided to sort of “suck of our pride” and go back to my OB/GYN who was the head of the ovulation monitoring program we had previously worked with to see his thoughts on why nothing was working when every doctor and test said it should. He really took the time to thoroughly review our case and suggested doing a laparoscopy and a gentle D&C which we believe is what did the trick. You are your best advocate!

Fear - The laparoscopy had been something on my mind for years but I was also so afraid to have it done and doctors telling me I didn't need it gave me an excuse not to do it. I was at a place where I needed to make a big change/step forward in my journey and I wasn't ready to give up on having a biological child. I finally admitted to myself that my desire to have a child was bigger than my fear and I finally just knew I was ready to do whatever I needed to do. I needed to be in the right place at the right time emotionally - no one could have brought me there except for myself. I spent a lot of time turning inward and the meditations and yoga were a huge guiding force. The fear doesn't go away once you see that positive test and something I constantly remind myself when fear creeps in is from the Fear mediation - “Thank you for your concern, but I've got this”

Lastly, one of my favorite takeaways is from one of my dear friends and affinity group members, “This is all a part of just not just your journey to motherhood but also your baby's journey to life.”

💫 In honor of NIAW

I want to make support more accessible this week.

For a limited time, I’m offering:

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